Monday, 22 June 2015

A conversation with Nelson Mandela



A few days ago I spent some time on an Away-Day with the leaders of one of the churches of which I am Minister.  We had a number of aims for the day, including the desire to get to know each other a little better, and one of the ways I tried to help us to that end was to devise a few questions.  As an example, a question I asked was, “Which character from history would you most like to meet?”  Several interesting answers were given, including Lady Diana, Mother Teresa, Florence Nightingale and General Custer.  My own choice was Nelson Mandela.

Mandela is widely regarded as one of the outstanding characters of the 20th century, and was certainly a remarkable man.  What really stands out to me about Nelson Mandela, and an area which I would love to talk to him about, was the fact that, despite having served 27 years in jail for standing up against the brutal and oppressive apartheid regime in South Africa, he was willing and able to show such grace and forgiveness on his release.  These are his words:

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.”

Nelson Mandela realised that when a person harbours bitterness and unforgiveness in their hearts, it is almost always they who suffer most, for bitterness is like a cancer eating away inside us.  A much more recent outpouring of remarkable forgiveness came only last week, when a lone gunman shot and killed 9 people in a prayer meeting at a Methodist Church in Charleston, USA.  A number of the grieving families have offered words of forgiveness to the man accused of the killings, and have pledged to pray for him.  Despite their own desperate pain, they are reaching out with grace and forgiveness.

How many of the world’s problems today would be eradicated if humankind learned to forgive instead of retaliating and seeking a “tit-for-tat” response?  We have much to learn from people like Nelson Mandela and the Charleston families.  And as Martin Luther King Jr. said,

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.”


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