Stick at it

Here’s a question for you: What do the following people have in common: Walt Disney, Vincent Van Gogh, Michael Jordon, Rudyard Kipling and Sir James Dyson?

Whilst you ponder that question, let me tell you a little about my attempt to gain fitness.  During the second half of last year I accomplished the ‘Couch to 5k’ challenge, which is aimed, over a 9-week period, to gradually build you up to be able to run 5k (about 30 minutes of running).  Of course, the real challenge was how to avoid losing the momentum.  For some weeks I ran for half an hour 3 times a week.  As winter drew on, I changed to using my cross-trainer which is located in the garage.

In some ways I am enjoying the exercise, but the truth is that every time I am on the cross-trainer a little voice inside my mind keeps saying things like, “well, you’ve done 15 minutes, surely it’s time to stop now – you don’t need to do 30 minutes EVERY time, you can do that next time!”  I find it extremely difficult to shut out that voice; there is a great temptation to quit early, though so far I have managed to keep going to the end.

Which brings my back to the question with which I began this blog.  Last week I took a school assembly and the theme given to me by the school was ‘Challenges and perseverance.”  I asked the children to identify five famous people (some no longer alive) from the clues I gave them.  They did well to guess all five.  I then went on to talk a little about them, and especially about the setbacks and failures which they experienced.

Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star in 1919 because, his editor said, he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”  During his lifetime Vincent Van Gogh received hardly any acclaim for his work and sold only one of his paintings, and that was to a friend for a very small amount of money. Despite this, he continued working throughout his life, never seeing success himself.  His works now fetch many millions.  Basket ball player Michael Jordon once said, “I have missed over 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the gam winning shot, and I have missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”  Author Rudyard Kipling was fired from his role as contributor to the San Francisco Examiner in 1889 because he was told by an editor, “I’m sorry Mr. Kipling, but you just don’t know how to use the English language.”  While developing his vacuum, Sir James Dyson went through 5,126 failed prototypes and his savings over 15 years.  But the 5,127th prototype worked, and the Dyson brand became a best-selling bagless vacuum brand around the world; he is now a billionaire.

What do they have in common – they persevered, they didn’t give up, despite the massive setbacks they faced.  I shared with the children a verse from St Paul’s letter to the Galatians, ‘Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up’ (6.9).  Sometimes life is really hard, and the temptations to quit are strong.  But we challenge is always to press on, and those who follow Christ know that he is our constant companion.

Let me end with a little saying which I came cross: “Postage stamps are getting more expensive, but at least they have one attribute that most of us could emulate: they stick to one thing until they get there”.

The power of words

I was interested to read a recent post on Twitter from well-known ‘Money-Saving Expert’ Martin Lewis.  He is a regular ‘tweeter’ but had taken a break over the Christmas holiday period to focus on his family (which is to be applauded – perhaps more of us should seriously consider whether we spend more time on social media than is healthy for our relationships with friends and family).  Anyway, this was his first tweet following the break:

Good morning. Happy New Year. Slightly nervous about re-engaging on twitter today. Having had a break, I realise how the 1 nasty tweet easily out-impacts the 1,000 nice on my psyche.

I have been pondering on why it is that somehow one careless, unkind or hurtful word can seem to have a more powerful, negative and lasting effect on a person that many kind, thoughtful and encouraging words?  Whatever the reason, it should make us take great care in the words we use.  One of the regrettable aspects of social media is that some people seem very quick to offer critical and hurtful comments towards others.  But it’s not just on social media that this occurs.  I am sure that every person has been guilty at some time of causing hurt by words which we have spoken, and sometimes that hurt can be tremendously difficult to erase.

As New Testament writer James reminds us, the tongue is a powerful instrument which can be used to destructive effect:

‘It only takes a spark, remember, to set off a forest fire. A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell’ (James 3.5-6).

He continues:

‘This is scary: You can tame a tiger, but you can’t tame a tongue - it’s never been done. The tongue runs wild, a wanton killer. With our tongues we bless God our Father; with the same tongues we curse the very men and women he made in his image. Curses and blessings out of the same mouth!’ (James 3.7-10).

If I say something hurtful or unkind to Sue, I know that it remains with her, even though I apologise and tell her how much I love her.  As we all know, once a word is out of our mouth we cannot recall it, however much we may regret saying that word.  It is not surprising that the Bible has much to say on the use of words.  For example, Proverbs 15.4 says, ‘Kind words heal and help; cutting words wound and maim’.  Peter writes, ‘Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech’ (1 Peter 3.10).  Paul is another who weighs in with his instruction, ‘Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you’ (Ephesians 4.29).

I am far from unblemished in words which I have used to others.  There have been many times when I have greatly regretted using unkind of unthoughtful words.  But in a society where criticism and judgement of others seems to be increasing, I would suggest that it is time for all of us to do our best to keep a tight reign in our tongues.  That is no easy task, but it is surely worthwhile.

I recently came across an image which I find extremely thought-provoking: